Gay marriage – What’s all the fuss about?

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So as a gay man living in this rather judgemental society it is sometimes difficult to show who you really are. I do agree that gay marriage should be legal all over the world, but for many reasons it’s not. Studies suggest that 1 in 3 of us are gay, thats a lot of homo’s in the world. Here in the UK homosexuals are able to have a civil partnership, which is a legal relationship exclusively for same-sex couples, distinct from marriage. It offers the same legal treatment as marriage across a range of matters, such as inheritance, pensions provision, life assurance, child maintenance, next of kin and immigration rights. Opposite-sex couples can opt for a religious or civil marriage ceremony, whereas a same-sex partnership is an exclusively civil procedure.

It is true, we should as human beings have the right be married in a church and have the same ceremony as any straight couple to declare our love to the one we plan to spend the rest of our life with, but the Church does not want us. If we were that upset about the issue then we would be taking the streets and rioting about it. I for one won’t need the Church’s blessing over who I plan to spend the rest of my life with, just my family’s and his would suffice. For me, I have to ask the question, what’s all the fuss about?

My housemate and I were discussing this the other night and she asked me what I thought about gay marriage. She had read an article about gay men not caring about it, and the fact that many straight men and women are more passionate about gay marriage and fighting for equality than the gays, who are in fact the ones who are being effected by the law. I don’t speak for the entire gay community, that would be absurd. I’m sure there are many homosexuals who actively disagree and are campaigning for us to have the equal right to marry, but I would be lying if I said I was one of them.

I plan to be writing an article for Br!o magazine in the near future about this issue, let me know what you think. It’s an interesting topic to focus on and one I’m sure that will spark many different opinions.

H

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2 thoughts on “Gay marriage – What’s all the fuss about?

  1. Hi. Very interesting topic , go to the following link to see a blog about this topic as well http://wordpress.com/#!/read/blog/id/31875398/
    I have been together with William for 10 plus years. We are not married, nor are we in a civil partnership. We however do have a partnership agreement, the emotional partnership agreement drawn up by our lawyer. It’s basically says that we are in a committed relationship, and this we did when we bought the house we are currently in. Therefore nobody can well I hope not, contest our will, our right to terminate our agreement, our joing fixed assets, the right of the other partner to have access to joing benefits, pension funds, etc etc. Its a living will, as our will was done as well after this agreement, very much the same as a prenuptial agreement or marrage contract relating to assets, money etc. I do not oppose marraige of the same sex, but for us it not an issue. Maybe we will look at this some time. At the end of the day, when you are with someone it’s a personal agreement between the two parties concerned. It’s just not done in a public forum. I am fully suppositive of gay marrage that spouses can get the equall benefits, adopt children, and enjoy the same legal benefits. We are both lucky that same sex relationships are recognized at Williams company so I do get health care benefits as I am the ‘secondary member” of the medical plan. We do pay part of this benefit, but it’s great that we can enjoy this. We have also ensured that all our assets are in order and that family members cannot lay claim to anything and that we also act together on all financial transactions. Money is the major cause of couple parting. We both have our own cars, individuality, but live in one house in both our names. So yes same sex marraige is great, but also ensure that your will and financial agreements are also in order stating that your partner/wife/husband is the beneficiary should something happen. Also make sure you have a will. So many people in today’s world do not have one, it can be a simply one or a detailed one etc. look after your family now, should something happen to you. Bottomline have the the party but ensure that your day to day affairs are in order.

    Ivan

    1. Thank you for your comment. I totally agree with you about the values of marriage and thank you for your advice about the will. I am new to word press but it is very enlightening to see such interest in what I write about.

      Thanks again,

      Hamish

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